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Buying

  1. Overview of Buying
  2. Learn about the date
  3. Learn about the benefiting nonprofit
  4. Ways to Buy
    1. Search and Buy a date
    2. Create a Date Wanted
  5. Signing up
  6. Creating your profile
  7. Paying for a date
  8. Refund policy
  9. Buyer feedback
  10. No shill bidding
  11. Dispute resolution

Overview of Buying

Buyadate.org members have the ability to be a buyer, or a seller, or both, or neither- it is entirely up to you how you choose to utilize your membership.

Member buyers can browse member profiles, use search features to locate seller members based on a wide variety of criteria. Upon finding a member seller of interest, a buyer can contact the seller. Members may verify and get to know each other better (through email, video, chat or links), or clarify details of the date with negotiation. A member buyer may request a date (or further information) with any member seller, but it is entirely up to the seller as to whether or not to accept the requested date (or share further information).

Members may verify and get to know each other better (through email, video, chat or links), or clarify details of the date and payment method with negotiation. Member buyers can negotiate to utilize our Escrow Service which holds the payment until the date is satisfactorily completed. It is up to the members to choose and agree what they prefer. See Suggestions/Tips section for more tips and issues best to discuss and negotiate prior to a date.

When you buy a date on Buyadate.org, a portion of the money you pay goes directly to benefit a nonprofit organization. Not only will you get a date that you want, you can feel great too because some of your money is helping a good cause. See the member sellers profile page to view which nonprofit or charitable cause will benefit from the payment of your date.


Learn about the date

After browsing or performing a search, click on the member name or the title of a date to view their member profile page. This page includes lots of information about the member and their dates offered, including the donation percentage and name of the benefiting nonprofit.

Ask the seller questions. If you have any questions, want to learn more about a date, or are unsure about something, then simply contact the seller by clicking the seller's "Ask a Question" button on their profile page.


Learn about the benefiting nonprofit

Every nonprofit in the Buyadate.org nonprofit database has a dedicated homepage, which features the organization's logo, mission statement and all active Buyadate.org listings that benefit their cause. This page may also include a link to the nonprofit's website where you can learn even more about them. To see a nonprofit's Buyadate.org homepage, click their name or logo anywhere you see it on Buyadate.org.


Ways to Buy

There are a variety of ways a member can buy a date:


Search and Buy a date

Search by name/keyword/category settings choices (or try our Advanced Search page for additional criteria to refine your search), and buy a date with someone offering their time or skill for a set price. Or buy a date with someone who is auctioning off a date.

Get to know the seller better, thru email, chat, or video. You can pay for a date, with a variety of payment methods, dependent on what you agree to with the member seller - see our Payment Center for various payment options. Want to learn more about a particular member, then view their profile, or comments section, or the discussion boards to get further information.


Create a Date Wanted

This is a 'Date Wanted' listing, that allows members to list a specific type of 'date' they are looking to buy, and what they would pay for it. As a Buyadate member you can design your ideal date (i.e. flowers, dinner, and a movie), offer a price you'd be willing to buy for some enjoyable company, and then let the offers come in as they may. You can check out, on an ongoing basis, the profiles of any sellers looking to accept your offer to provide you such a date, and then you can select and buy whomever fits well what you're looking for.

For example, a member buyer can create and post in the Date Wanted section of their member profile "I want to learn how to take the perfect 3 point jump shot, from a current or ex-professional/ college basketball player, I want a 2 hour session to practice form and shots, willing to pay $5,000"- and then the member buyer can let the offers roll in, and pick whomever is best suited. A member seller can use the browse feature of our site to search for 'Date Wanted', and view the many types of dates wanted by other members.

Create a Date Wanted is like a "Date Wanted" ad, only better! Member buyers can ask for dates they want and member sellers can search through these Date Wanted ads and respond with an offer.

Creating a Date Wanted post is easy- all you need to do is:

  • Create a Date Wanted post on your member profile
  • Describe in detail what you are looking for
  • Receive an email whenever a seller responds to your Date Wanted post

How Create a Date Wanted works for Buyers:

1. Buyers can create a Date Wanted post from the Date Wanted section in their member profile.

2. Describe in detail the date you are looking for. Be as specific as possible so that sellers can best match your request. Help sellers find your Date Wanted postings by using keywords or placing it in the appropriate category.

3. View your Date Correspondence tab at your Message Center. This is where sellers will respond to your Date Wanted postings.

4. Manage, delete, edit your Date Wanted posts from your member profile page.

5. Receive a correspondence at your Message Center when a seller responds to your Date Wanted postings. You can check out, on an ongoing basis, the profiles of any sellers looking to accept your offer to provide you such a date. Sellers can also ask you a question to get more information about what you are looking for.

6. Select the member that best suits your what you're looking for, and correspond with them. The member seller can correspond about the date details, payment arrangements can be further clarified, and you both can decide whether to accept the date.

7. If you want to end your Date Wanted post and stop receiving responses, you can delete the post at any time. Or if your date has been fulfilled, and you took it down, you can easily repost it.


Who can register as a member?

To register with Buyadate.org, a member must be over 18 years old and have read our Terms of Use and Privacy Policy, and agree to abide by our Community Guidelines.


Signup as a member and Create a Profile

To register with Buyadate.org, simply click on the Sign up link, located at the top of any page.

Complete the new member registration form, and read and approve our Terms of Use and Privacy Policy agreements. You must check the box approving these agreements to register with Buyadate.org. Then submit your registration by clicking the Signup button.

Next, check your email for an activation email from Buyadate.org, and follow the instructions in the email to confirm your registration and complete the registration process.

That's all there is to it! You can then log in to Buyadate.org and begin to create your member profile (see our Sample Profiles section for profile ideas). Once you create a profile, you may then utilize the website for buying and selling, as well as generating money for your favorite nonprofit/charitable causes.


Paying for a date

You can pay for a date, with a variety of payment methods, dependent on what you agree to with the member seller - see our Payment Center for various payment options. Member sellers list their preferred payment methods, but member buyers can negotiate and even choose to utilize our Escrow Service, which holds the payment until the date is satisfactorily completed. It is up to the members to choose and agree what they prefer. See Suggestions/Tips section for more tips and issues best to discuss and negotiate prior to a date.

Buyers do not make a separate payment for the nonprofit donation amount - you just pay the seller. Buyadate.org will collect the profit sharing contribution from the seller and pass it on to the benefiting nonprofit.

Ensure your contact information and email address is up-to-date. Check your personal information to make sure it is correct. Also, check that any "spam" blocking software that you have installed at your email address, does not limit a seller from communicating with you.


Refund policy

After a date has taken place, the member buyer will be emailed a date confirmation letter stating that the scheduled date has taken place and asking for some member buyer feedback (which will be posted on the member seller's profile).

If Buyadate.org does not hear contrary from the member buyer, and no dispute is filed, Buyadate.org will assume the date took place as scheduled- it is the member buyer's responsibility to notify Buyadate.org, if the member seller postpones, cancels or does not show up for the date. Member seller must also confirm with Buyadate.org after a date actually takes place.

Because member sellers may withdraw their profits 14 days from the time of the actual date, we require that all refunds be requested by member buyers within 14 days of the actual date. There are no returns or cancellations for any dates and/or services purchased through Buyadate.org after 14 days of the actual date.

Member buyer agrees that if they make a payment and then request a refund, that they will bear any losses, costs or fees incurred by Buyadate.org from the transactional processing and/or refunding to the member buyer's payment source (for example, the % fee charged by the buyer's credit card company to process the transaction, as well as any cost or fee charged by the credit card to refund you).

Member buyer waives the right to a refund after 14 days from the actual date. Member buyer agrees that if they circumvent this 14 day refund period, with a direct request to their credit card (or other payment form) for reimbursement after 14 days (of the actual date), which consequently leaves Buyadate.org bearing the liability of payments already made to the member seller and nonprofit profit sharing donation, that member buyer will be liable for the full reimbursement amount and fees associated with such refund. In such a case, member buyer will be liable to Buyadate.org, and no longer able to use the Buyadate.org Site or Service until such liability is reimbursed.

When a refund is issued, it is applied to the payment source (e.g. a credit card, checking account, PayPal, etc.). To be eligible for a refund, you must submit your request using our Dispute Center within 14 days of your actual date. Note: Please allow 30 days for refunds to be processed and posted to your account.

In cases where there is a long duration between payment and actual date, then our Escrow Service may be the best option for member seller to verify that the funds are available and member buyer to ensure that the date takes place before payment is made. During the payment process, when the buyer is requested to supply payment information, the buyer will have the opportunity to select to utilize the Buyadate.org Escrow Service (as long as the seller has also agreed to such payment method).

If a member buyer has deposited funds in our Escrow Account and requests a refund, depending on the payment source, and method of refund, you may be charged a processing fee. If there are no fees charged to Buyadate.org (or such fee is refunded), in such cases Buyadate.org will not charge members any fee for refunds.


Buyer feedback

After a date has taken place, buyer will be sent a date confirmation email stating that the scheduled date has taken place and asking for some buyer feedback (which will be posted on the seller's profile).

If Buyadate.org does not hear contrary from the buyer, we will assume the date took place as scheduled- it is the buyer's responsibility to notify Buyadate.org, if the seller postpones, reschedules, cancels or does not show up for the date.


No shill bidding

Shill bidding is the deliberate placing of bids to artificially raise the price of a date. Shill bidding is not allowed on Buyadate.org, and is in fact illegal in some areas. No organization should ever engage in or encourage shill bidding. Buyadate.org actively watches for shills, and will suspend users it suspects of shill bidding.


Dispute resolution

We understand that it's never a pleasant experience to have a problem with a date. Often, the easiest way to resolve a problem is by communicating with the other person. However, if you continue to have a problem, you can report this problem through our Dispute Resolution center. The dispute center is an online communication tool which can help you report, track, and resolve your dispute.


Do you still need help?

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